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- Posted July 13, 2010 at 3:11 pm
Has someone ever told you that what you’re doing is “not good enough”, but you know in your heart you are doing your absolute best? These messages could be driving you to be successful or could be sabotaging your growth.
When I was growing up my father constantly criticized me. When I was in high school I loved listening to James Taylor and other sing-a-long type artists. I loved singing so much to those songs, I would sing out loud in my room and sometimes when I was riding my bicycle. However, one time my father heard me and he came into my room and his comment to me was that he was wondering what that terrible sound was. He insisted I turn off the record player and stop singing.
Another time I was cleaning the family dishes after dinner and apparently the water was not hot enough. My dad turned the water up so hot that I scalded my hands as he scolded me about how to wash dishes — that I was going to make everyone sick because I wasn’t cleaning the dishes well enough.
As I’ve gone through life, I’ve realized that these criticisms and disciplines are not normal and I’ve reflected on how these occurrences affected my life’s path. I never pursued anything with music and still hate cleaning dishes. I do however, think I’m a pretty darn good singer and am never afraid to sing out loud!
When people tell you that you are not good enough, you may brush it off or you may get stuck and start thinking something is wrong with you. If you feel the latter, you may see this affecting your productivity as you are not doing all you want to do in your life. I know a kitchen with dishes sitting in the sink for a couple of days is an inefficient way to enjoy your home. This behavior affirms that things don’t clutter, we clutter. And when we understand why we can make simple changes to improve the quality of our life.
If there are messages from your past that feel like old tapes going through your head, consider the source and realize that no one but you can make judgments on your value. Strive to do your best always and if it feels good to you, keep moving forward.